Sunday, January 21, 2018

Not Your “Pink Pepto-Bismol Heart” Kind of Love

February 15, 2012 by  
Filed under Daily Manna, Monthly Articles

Not that there’s anything wrong with the candy hearts at Valentine’s Day, (other than the fact that they taste like Pepto-Bismol.” It just seemed like a good title while the talk is of love in the air.

I was reading in Romans this weekend and 12:9 pierced like a cupid’s arrow right into my heart.

“Let love be without hypocrisy.”

I think sometimes that verse gets hidden in the long list of exhortations in Romans 12. But it’s oh so important.

My opinion is that no human on this earth loves people without hypocrisy, at least not all the time. I also believe that when we are walking in faith with Jesus front and center in our lives, we can begin the process of loving others like this more and more, and that we will want to. And wanting to is part of the battle. The more we love Christ, the more we will love what He loves, as well as love in the way He loves. In this case, it’s sincerely, without hypocrisy.

Here’s the truth. I don’t want to love people out of feel-good sentiment. I don’t want to love people just because they think like me or look like me or live like me. Nor do I want to love blindly and falsely with an anything-goes mentality. Sometimes loving someone involves telling the truth or confronting something in them that may harm them or others.  Love always protects, right?

I can’t practice genuine love in a vacuum. It is fleshed out in life with others, and often it is messy and painful and not at all what we expect in the end. Remember how on Valentine’s Day, a boy might ask a girl to “Be Mine”? With a flushed face and goose pimples she’d accept, only to hate his guts a week later. Another memory is of friends who have come and gone, once declaring to love or die for another, only to ditch them or possibly even attack or shame them when the friendship didn’t go their way.

That’s why love must be without hypocrisy. It’s the opposite of how we grow up thinking about love. It’s not “Be mine, mine and all mine.” It’s “Be His, His and all His” so that we can give Him glory by our sacrificial and sincere love for one another. I love the way John Piper lays this out in his message, “Let Love Be Genuine”:

Love doesn’t put up artificial fronts. Love does not dwell on the flaws of others. Love does not crave the praise of men. And love does not act religious to hide sin.

Love forgets itself and looks to Christ and overflows with joy in him to meet the needs of others. So let us look to Christ for everything we need.

Wow. “Love forgets itself and looks to Christ.” Wouldn’t it be cool to see that written on a candy heart? He has so much work to do in my “me, Me, ME” heart, friends. When I recollect all the times I’ve loved out of wrong and selfish motives, how many times I’ve said “I love you” to someone only to think judgmental thoughts of them or feel entitled to something from them, it grieves me. That’s why I must forget myself and look to Christ.

So I continue to lay those before my Father who loves perfectly and forgives completely while equipping me to love without hypocrisy each and every day. The One who calls us to love this way is faithful, and He will surely do it as we trust and obey, sanctifying us through and through along the way. (1 Thess. 5:23-24).


Daughter of the Almighty, wife of 20 years, Mama bear and taxi driver to 3 stinkers, mentor, sister, friend, writer, and speaker. I long to be authentic and share the Word of Truth in person and online.

I’ve been writing, leading worship, performing, directing and acting in front of audiences since childhood. Recently, God has called me to use the gifts He’s given me to speak to Christian women. I like to mix my life experiences–the big, the small, the great and the ugly–along with a bit of dramatic humor, in order to show how the Lord has been up close and personal in my life each step of the way.

Whether it’s diapering babies, taxying teens, being a church volunteer, trying to make sense of the marriage thing, or overcoming strongholds and struggles (past or present), I hope to communicate God’s largeness through it all.

Email if you’d like more info on speaking for your moms’ or women’s group.

My testimony can be found here:
A Patch From My Past.

Personal Interests: reading and writing; meeting my friends for coffee; doing group aerobic classes; playing board games (especially Scrabble) with my family; listening and singing along to worship music; encouraging people online; solving crossword puzzles.

You can contact me at:

Click Here

Speak Your Mind

Tell us what you're thinking...
and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar!

Please leave these two fields as-is:

Protected by Invisible Defender. Showed 403 to 408,053 bad guys.