Thursday, January 18, 2018

Forgive and Forget

July 29, 2012 by  
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Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.


                                                                                                            Colossians 3:13 KJV


Simply put: Forgive as the Lord forgave.

The Lord sacrificed his life to forgive me from all sin.  A big price to pay, so I may have eternal life.  To disregard this unconditional love from my Heavenly Father; how can I forgive and be forgiven?

To forgive is to be set free from my own faults.  A world of human imperfection.  However, how do I  forgive and let go of hurt in order to strengthen myself?  A test I endured when my father told me to leave the house I grew up in, because I was pregnant at 19; thinking I got pregnant, because my 16 year old sister was.  He was angry with me and could not deal with both of us being pregnant.  Those words imprinted on my heart.  Was I really that bad, my father wanted me to leave? 

I left and ended up with my babies father in his parents home.  My father was hoping I would move to Florida with my Mom, but I did not want too.  I thought I was in love.  Even when times were difficult as my marriage was falling a apart; and was homeless; my father did not help me, as my only sister that lived near me, could not help either.  He spoke loving words of encouragement, but not what I physically needed for my two little girls.  I was angry with my father for leaving my Mom, for a women I believe manipulated him and his values.  However, I knew he was tired as well.  Was his decision based on my expressed feelings a year earlier?  

How can I forgive and forget?  Will it really help me feel relief; a burden off my shoulders if I forgive and move forward?

These events questioned my heart as I was struggling with my faith, as I recall my father’s response, “I am not going to help you – this is tough love.  I am letting God take control”.  How can I forgive being left alone?  I was upset, terrified, and had no idea where I was going to go.  Around 7:00 pm that night, I ended up at a women’s homeless shelter with my daughters, just for a little while. 

I move forward and triumphed with my difficulties.  Looking back I forgave and forgot, remembering my father’s memories and how he did love and take care of me.  The last words I heard was, “whatever decision you decide.  Stick with it and do not look back”.  I took his advice and found happiness.

As the years passed; I  attending church more often and learned of God’s mercy, grace, and love.  Reading our Holy Bible and talking to other Christians.  My heart  is becoming heart-warming.  Of course I slip up becoming temperamental.  Like I said before, human imperfection.  We just have to get back up and wipe the dust off and keep moving forward and not look back so we can grow.

Unconditional love will always be within me.  Whether it be for my family or friends.  I will forgive to heal my own well-being and be forgiven by my Holy Father. 

How do you deal with forgiving?  Are you letting go, allowing yourself to be healed?

Prayer: Lord our God, may your example be our guide to forgiving others as you have forgave us.  Remind us of your sacrifice to allow our hearts to open and be set free from all pain, so we may be forgiven as well.


My name is Angelika DeFrancesco.  I was born in San Diego California.  I moved every four years as my father moved up the corporate ladder, learning many cultural backgrounds.  I spent my High School years in New Jersey; eventually met my husband and we moved to the Pocono Mountains in Pennsylvania, where we raised our five children.  

I enjoy spending time with my family and friends, running, baking, cooking, and all creative arts.  I have written many projects of all genres as an aspiring writer.  I am currently an author for, and a member of Faithwriters.  I am also studying the MFA book in creative writing, from the New York Writers Workshop and have attended the Greater Lehigh Valley Writers Group (GLVWG) workshops, the Writer’s Market and The Muse Online Writers Conference. 

I love to express my faith in God and know he is all around me, no matter where I am, or what the situation maybe.  Learning to spread his word inspires me to want to do more in my world of writing.   You can reach Angelika here:  or

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One Response to “Forgive and Forget”
  1. Maria Minard says:

    This article touched an inner cord with me, being that this is my twin sitser.
    Her love and love of writing is so beautifully said. She has worked hard and I’m proud
    Of her achievements and obstacles she has overcome. She is so correct on the
    saying of forgive and forget. Even I at times I find it hard to do. I to have been
    through my phases of hardship and triumphs in life. Yet the one thing I will
    always know is that how God’s love is unconditional .

    Wonderful and touching article twin.
    Thank you

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