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Definition of Love

September 5, 2011 by  
Filed under Daily Manna, Monthly Articles

 I am working on a future blog and was looking up the definition of love and decided to do a mini blog on it real quick because of what I found.

Following are some of the definition’s I found on

1. Sexual passion or desire.

2. A love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.

3. Sexual intercourse; copulation.

4. To need or require; benefit greatly from.

5. To embrace or kiss.

6. To hug and cuddle (that would mean I am in love with every person I know man or woman).

Proverbs 17:9  Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.

Proverbs 21:26  
Some people are always greedy for more, but the godly love to give!

Some of these really shocked me. Of course I left out some of the good ones out to prove a point. It is crazy that these six would even be included in a definition about love. The world has a jacked up view on love. I love a lot of people and truly care about them but I do not want to have a love affair with them.

The one that really struck me was number four, to need or require; benefit greatly from. That is the most jacked up view on love that I have ever heard but we hear it all the time. Today people go into relationships thinking what am I going to get out of it or what is in it for me? It is all about me, me me me.

All of the definitions above are not even close to what God has planned for love. Love should never benefit self at the expense of someone else. That is what we call lust. If you are going into a relationship to get something out of it you are
actually lusting after that other person. Of course there are benefits to a relationship but if that is your main goal you do not love that person. This is one of the main reasons why we have such a high divorce rate because as soon as I am not getting what I want I can just go find it somewhere else. If the first sign of trouble makes you run you were never in love.

Out of all the definitions of love that I have heard the one that stood out most to me I heard Dr. Edwin Louis Cole, founder of Christian Men’s Network say, “Love is to benefit others at the expense of self.” When you think about it, it is obvious. A healthy relationship is two people giving 100%. Not 50/50. Love is a choice not a feeling, an act, an emotion, or a desire. It is
something that you choose to do daily. Some days this is hard but if you love that person you will make the right choice.

I have a blog coming up on relationships and how men and women are different. I think that if we can understand our difference and what we expect from the opposite sex we could have a lot more success.



L. “Gene” Milstead, currently works for Christian Men’s Network as a representative who helps pastors set up a men’s programs for discipleship. He also teaches at a transition home for men, mentoring them and helping them become men of character and integrity through relationship, discipleship, and love. Gene was commissioned in 2004 to be a minister to men by Christian Men’s Network . He is very passionate about seeing people grow closer to God through gaining of knowledge and relationship with Him.

Gene has also lost 120 pounds over the last year through dieting and exercise. He feels like physical health is just as important as spiritual health and that they go hand in hand. You can learn more about his journey at He hopes that his writings will challenge you to dive into the Bible and ask God to give you personal revelation for your life.

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