Saturday, March 17, 2018

Jesus Doesn’t Take Out the Trash

July 20, 2010 by  
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Being a single parent has its joys and challenges.  Juggling schedules, parenting, running the house, paying the bills, and just dealing with the world we are living in can be overwhelming.  There is no freedom to do what you want.  So most of the time you sail along pushing thorough all of the daily stuff with no problem.  Then your girlfriend calls and tells you how her husband took the kids so she could get her toes done and then on the way home bought dinner so she didn’t have to cook.  As you listen, you think, I wish I had someone to take the kid, help with the chores, or just hold me in his arms and say “Hey, I love you, don’t worry everything will be OK.”

When I heard that a friend I had dated once was getting married, the yearning for a husband resumed in my spirit.  In that moment I heard the Lord say “ I have a different path for you.” I called my Mama Barbara for comfort and with love and wisdom she said, “the Bible teaches that when you surrender your all to Jesus he becomes your husband and a father to your daughter.”  I remember thinking, now that’s just weird, Jesus, my husband? But I responded to her, “Yeah, well Jesus doesn’t take out the trash, mom!”

After services one Sunday, I saw the youth pastor and brought up the subject of the difficulties and loneliness of single parenting to him.  He just looked at me and smiled then told me to do a word search on Widows and Orphans and let the Holy Spirit talk to me through His Word.

That night, I sat in my comfy wing back chair and began my study with prayer for the Lord to speak to me.  I have to say, the first couple of verses I read were not very comforting.  But then the words from Psalm 68:5 popped out at me “A father of the fatherless, a defender of widows…”. This verse lead me to the following verses and it started to feel like Jesus was having a conversation with me.  1 Corinthians 7:34 There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world–how she may please her husband.  1 Corinthians 7:35 …that you may serve the Lord without distraction.

1 Peter 5:7…. casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.  Hebrews 13:5  Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Jeremiah  31:3  “… I have loved you with an everlasting  love; Therefore with loving-kindness I have drawn you.” Matthew  6:34 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”

As I sank in to the wings of my chair with my eyes closed contemplating the verses I had read, the Lord started to reveal how He, as my husband, was providing for His family.  He showed me that in the past He had sent a Christian man to do the repairs around my house.  While my daughter may not have her birth father around, her Heavenly Father has put several Godly men in her life.  He showed me that I have the freedom to serve Him through the ministries in and apart from Church.  While I sat there, the wings of the chair started to feel like an embrace and Jesus was saying to me “Hey, I love you. Don’t worry everything will be OK.”

As I learn daily, moment-by-moment to surrender my will and be obedient to His call, I find my life is full and that I am content with what I have.  I don’t know where this path will lead me.  But, with Jesus as my husband I won’t get there alone.  Oh there is one more thing Jesus taught me.  Yes, Jesus does take out the trash; He just uses my daughter to do the lifting.

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3 Responses to “Jesus Doesn’t Take Out the Trash”
  1. Kirk Cavalier Sr. says:

    You know you will always have Jesus to be all that you need spiritually. Keep him always in your heart. I love you sis. Stay strong, you will always have me to watch your back here on earth.

  2. Jo'De B. Kaempen says:

    Totally awsome sista!! You continue to “blow me away” with all your emerging new God given talents!! =)

  3. April Aguirre says:

    Hi JanMarie,

    Thank you for sharing your heart! I’m also a single mom, what you had to say is right on target! I have a Facebook page, “A Call To Purity” although I’ll be taking time off with finding a new administrator I would still love to share your message with everyone. Is this okay?

    April Aguirre